Who Else Wants To Know How To Be
A Great Flirt?
Women are often mislead when it comes to flirting; if you come
across overly flirty then you could give of the impression that
you're easy, if you flirt too little then you could come across as
being boring or dry. However if you find the balance with your
flirting, you can do WONDERS in your relationships and increase
your attraction massively.
The fact is, men respond well to flirting. They find it a challenge
and enjoy the sexual attraction that it produces, so it's vital
that you let your inner flirt come out a lot more. I've spoken to
enough guys now to understand what works and what doesn't...
from a subtle flick of the hair to an over exaggerated pose...
Here's how to become a great flirt and send out the right signals:
To become a great flirt you have to gauge your surroundings, and
know how to use them to your advantage. So let's look at what you
can do in 4 different situations in order to flirt like a pro:
1. In a coffee shop
A coffee shop is a low-key, casual environment where people are
usually relaxed and have their guard down. It's tragically
under-used as a great place to strike up conversation.
Coffee shop lines are ideal; they often have about a minute gap
between ordering your drink and actually getting it, so that's your
window to be chatty.
In choosing what you would say, be observant to what's going on
around you - What did he order? - Say you need a change and ask him
to recommend a muffin. So when he says "Try banana" you can
playfully go "Wrong! I'm allergic to banana." Or if he says one you
like you can say "That's perfect! Wow, you have great taste. Have
you done this before?" (Be as playful as you want with it!).
Or, you have great taste!
Guys holding books are also ideal - Even if you haven't read it,
you can see if its a book you want to read and have a chat.
2. In a bar
Bars are heavily geared towards meeting people and flirting, as
long as you know how to do it.
Ordering drinks at the bar is an ideal location for flirting,
because you get two things:
(a) Proximity, which gives you
(b) Easy physical contact
Let me explain. When ordering drinks at a bar you'll be side by
side with a guy instead of face on. This works better for flirting
because it allows you to get closer proximity to him without both
of you feeling uncomfortable about the proximity.
Alternatively, when we are positioned face to face it's actually
much more difficult to initiate any light touching (something that
is crucial if you want to be a great flirt!). This touching should
always be light and not too frequent! You just touch the back of
his arm lightly when you make a point. Or maybe you can tease him
because he orders a fruity cocktail and say: "I think you win for
the most girly drink of the night".
But remember, this is a TEASE not an INSULT. To make him aware of
that you must have a little mischievous smile when you say it, as
if you know you've been cheeky. More.
